The Women

I managed to watch The Women again at Star Movies. A star-studded all-female movie. Yup, no men! It's a movie about women, must be watched by women, and must be watched by men/husbands. I don't know if things would have turned out differently if I had watched this before.
The whole movie can be quoted beautifully and meaningfully. If you wonder how it feels like, Candice Bergen said it in its entirety and truthfully. I was taken aback when I first watched the part, like my feelings were stripped bare for the world to see. But it was how it first felt and you either fight to win, or crouched and lose. I wish no women will ever feel or experience it because the pain is too excruciating. But then, women are stronger than they think they are... surviving is a choice, so set your aim to win.
If you are curious on how it felt to be a cheated wife, here it is.
Candice Bergen to Meg Ryan:
"It feels like someone kicked you in the stomach, feels like your heart stopped beating, feels like that dream, you know the one when you are falling and you want so desperately to wake up before you hit the ground but it's all out of your control. You can't trust anything anymore, no one is who they say they are. Your life is changed forever, and the only thing to come out of the whole ugly experience is no one will be able to break your heart like that again."

Bounce Back from Rock Bottom

How does one bounce back after hitting rock bottom? After I found out about my husband's affairs, I thought my life was over. I spent weeks being sad and depressed. I walked around like a zombie - living but dead inside. However, I was blessed to have a truly good friend. She picked me up from my state of daze, shook me out of my nightmare and nudged me to move on.
It was New Year's eve when she called saying she would come see me the next day. I was watching TV where they showed live telecast of fireworks display at midnight feeling so alone at one minute into the new year. She made me promise I would go to the gym the next morning, at the very same time she would be at her gym. She then came, picked me up and drove to a beach 45 minutes from my house. We spent the rest of the afternoon sitting on the sand, talking nonsense and watching the waves. We had a good laugh and a good cry. And we ended the day with sumptuous seafood dinner. 
Hitting rock bottom is painful but turning to a good friend for comfort can help you to bounce back. Have a good talk and a good cry. You have all the rights to be sad and depressed. However, you have to move on with life and a good friend will be able to hold your hand and provide a shoulder to cry on...